Hot Potatoes #6

Hot Potatoes #6: Are Some People Born Gay?

We don’t know the answer to the question, “Are some people born gay?” The clinical evidence is inconclusive as to whether people are born with that sexual orientation or if it is an inclination created by circumstance and/or experience. In reality, the answer doesn’t matter. It’s a bit like being a crippled person and trying to figure out if your inability to walk was caused by a birth defect or as a result of an injury caused by being dropped to the ground as a toddler. If YOU are the crippled person, who cares what the answer is? What you want is either a cure or some help coping with the fact that you’re crippled.

“God would never create someone with the inclination towards homosexuality!” That is lousy theology. Do you feel a natural inclination to eat more than you should? Do you ever feel physically attracted to anyone other than your spouse? Do you ever naturally lose your temper? Do you ever enjoy taking part in gossip? You get the idea. You didn’t have to learn these behaviors. Sin is our human nature. Yes, God created us. But sin corrupted us from birth so that we naturally act out in self-destructive ways…including our sexual desires and/or behavior.

Do you agree/disagree that the answer to “Are some people born gay?” doesn’t really matter?

Romans 1:18-27

18For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth. 19For what can be known about God is plain to them, because God has shown it to them. 20For his invisible attributes, namely, his eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly perceived, ever since the creation of the world, in the things that have been made. So they are without excuse. 21For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking and their foolish hearts were darkened. 22 Claiming to be wise, they became fools, 23and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images resembling mortal man and birds and animals and creeping things.

 24Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, 25because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen.

 26For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; 27and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error.

What Paul was saying:

Paul says here that the root of sexual perversion is rebellion against God’s authority. It is about failing to recognize and submit to God. Why is that a big deal? It is a big deal because when we fail to submit to God’s authority, we don’t just take control of our own lives we move out from under God’s protection and into the very presence and control of evil (inside and outside of us) which is greater than our human will-power to resist.

In verse 27, Paul says that this behavior will result in receiving “due penalty” for their error. What do you think this means?

Romans 1:28-32

28And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient; 29Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers, 30Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, 31Without understanding, covenant breakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful: 32Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.

What issues/sins on this list surprise you most to see them listed right alongside sexual sins?

What is the final step in depravity that Paul describes in vs. 32? People not only participate in these sins, but they approve of others who do such….as if it were a good thing.

Why do Christians cry out so loudly against homosexuality, but say little about the other sins listed here?

Romans 2:1-4

1Therefore you have no excuse, O man, every one of you who judges. For in passing judgment on another you condemn yourself, because you, the judge, practice the very same things. 2We know that the judgment of God rightly falls on those who practice such things. 3Do you suppose, O man—you who judge those who practice such things and yet do them yourself—that you will escape the judgment of God? 4Or do you presume on the riches of his kindness and forbearance and patience, not knowing that God’s kindness is meant to lead you to repentance?

What is it that leads us towards repentance? How does a harsh judgment against homosexuals stand in contrast to vs. 4?

Hot Potatoes #5

Hot Potatoes #5 Why Doesn’t God Answer my Prayers?

Have you ever struggled with this question of unanswered prayer?  What was

that like?  Can you share an example?  Did you ever get an answer?

Matthew 7:7-11

7Ask, and you will receive. Search, and you will find. Knock, and the door will be opened for you. 8Everyone who asks will receive. Everyone who searches will find. And the door will be opened for everyone who knocks. 9Would any of you give your hungry child a stone, if the child asked for some bread? 10Would you give your child a snake if the child asked for a fish? 11As bad as you are, you still know how to give good gifts to your children. But your heavenly Father is even more ready to give good things to people who ask.

What is interesting about what Jesus said? Is there any question that Jesus wants us and expects us to believe that God always answers prayer?

Why did Jesus make the comparison in vs. 11 between us and God?

Why do sins disconnect us from God? (1 John 1:9)

It is important to examine your prayers, see James 4:3 about that.

Have you ever had the experience of asking for something in prayer only later to be glad God didn’t answer? What does that teach you?

It is important to examine your hearing. How noisy is your world right now? How can we listen better?

How can be more effective in our prayers?

Hot Potatoes #4

Hot Potatoes #4: Is Hell Real?

The 5 Views of “what happens when you die” are:

·        Naturalism – “we don’t have a soul”

·        Universalism – “we are all going to heaven” “all religions lead to God”

·        Reincarnation – “there are multiple successions of living”

·        Annihilationists – “everyone dies (eventually)”

·        Purgatory – “as a believer, we’ll go to a holding place”

How does the Bible describe hell:

2 Thess. 1:9 – Separated from God

Matthew 25:30 – Outer Darkness, Weeping and Gnashing

Matthew 25:41 – Eternal Fire, Satan and Demons there

Luke 16:22-24 – Torment and Anguish

Having read these verses, how does that make you feel about the reality of hell? How does it make you feel to know that real people go there?

How does knowing about hell change the way you think about your friends and family? What about reaching the lost?

How would you answer the following objections to a belief in a literal place of punishment?

·        A loving God would not send billions of people to a horrible hell.

·        A loving God would be more tolerant.

·        Eternal judgment in hell is an unjust punishment for people who sin.

Our response to the message on hell:

·        Rejoice that because of Christ, we don’t have to go there.

·        Realize that the things we do to get out the Good News are the more important things we do in this life.

Hot Potatoes #3

Hot Potatoes #3 “Is Divorce Ever OK?”

Scripture References:

Genesis 2:20-25

Deuteronomy 24:1-4

Malachi 2:13-16

Matthew 5:31-32

** Matthew 19-3-10

** 1 Corinthians 7:1-17, 39-40

** denotes important verses for this lesson

Important Point:

God hates divorce primarily because of the terrible pain and hardship that it brings into the lives of His children. God does NOT hate divorced people. He has love and compassion for people who have been through, or are going through, this terrible experience.

Divorce is neither ideal nor God’s first plan for us. But divorce is not some unique or unforgivable sin. And God loves, blesses, and uses divorced people as greatly and as freely as He uses those who have never been divorced.

Discussion:

The 4 conditions for divorce or separation that Mark discussed on Sunday were Adultery, Abandonment, Abuse, and Addiction. What is your reaction to that summary? Do you agree or disagree?

Matthew 19:3-10

³And Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, "Is it lawful to divorce one’s wife for any cause?" ⁴He answered, "Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, ⁵and said,'Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? ⁶So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate." ⁷They said to him, "Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?" ⁸He said to them, "Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. ⁹And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery."

 ¹⁰The disciples said to him, "If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry."

How would you sum up what Jesus had to say about marriage? Did Jesus negate the possibility of divorce?

Under what condition did Jesus say that divorce was permitted? (The Greek word used by Jesus in 19:9 for “marital unfaithfulness” was “porneia.” It is the root-word from which we get the word “pornography.” Porneia meant “to prostitute yourself or to be sexually unfaithful.”) Do you feel that “marital unfaithfulness” applies to:

·        People who have repeatedly used pornography for sexual gratification?

·        People who use sex chat calls for sexual gratification?

·        People who engage in sexually graphic text and email conversations with someone other than their spouse?

·        People who repeatedly or consistently withhold sex from their spouse?

1 Cor. 7:1-17

Principles for Marriage

 ¹Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: "It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman."²But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. ³ The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. ⁴For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. ⁵ Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

 ⁶Now as a concession, not a command, I say this. ⁷ I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another.

 ⁸To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am. ⁹But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

 ¹⁰To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband ¹¹(but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife.

 ¹²To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. ¹³If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. ¹⁴For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. ¹⁵But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. ¹⁶For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

Live as You Are Called

 ¹⁷Only let each person lead the life that the Lord has assigned to him, and to which God has called him. This is my rule in all the churches.

In what ways would our obedience to the instructions in verses 3-6 decrease the likelihood of future divorce?

Note the instructions that Paul gives in verses 10-11, 12-16, and 39.

If a person has divorced and remarried under conditions which the scriptures would define as adultery, what would you counsel that person to do?

If you have a friend or one of your adult children who is being abused by his or her spouse, how would you counsel them?

What is your greatest unanswered question about divorce or remarriage at this point?